Sarah lives a good life. She owns a nice home. She is artistically talented and intelligent. Has friends and family to count on when needed. In short, she lives a good life.

But what I hear from her mouth is a lot of “I can’t” and “I don’t,” two phrases that absolutely drive me up the wall. I want to shake her by the shoulders and tell her “you can” and “you do,” because, well, because it’s true.


She makes the choice that she can’t do this or do that. She is a glass half-empty personality. Someone who always looks at what she doesn’t have and believes she’ll never achieve what she wants.

Sarah will never be satisfied with her life no matter how much she has because she is focused on what she doesn’t have instead of what she DOES have. She’s focused on the negative, the can not, the do not.

Negative is characterized by the absence of, rather than the presence of. So Sarah is focused on what’s missing from her life. It’s hard to feel happy when all you see is what you don’t have.

I am a glass half-full type of gal. Even when I was homeless and broke I believed that things would get better. I trusted that somehow I would get through it all and be okay. I did, and I am. I’m not rich, but I know what it’s like to have nothing, so I’m happy with what I have.

I think this is one of the keys to true happiness—to focus on the positive, to feel gratitude for what you do have instead of focusing on what you don’t have.