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The Habits of Our Minds

Most of the humans I know tend to be lazy–not in action, but in our thinking. From the earliest days we develop an outlook on places,  events, people–on life in general–that becomes habitual to the point where we become stuck. We become rooted in specific thought patterns. This is how bigots, misogynists, and other prejudices are created.Read More

Decisions

“To be or not to be”

That is the question, isn’t it? If Prince Hamlet had shown more decisiveness a whole string of tragedies could have been avoided. And that is the lesson Shakespeare was illustrating with this famous tale. I think perhaps we all find ourselves in this situation at some point or other in our lives. (Maybe some people never get past it. What a miserable life they must lead, always blowing in the wind.)

Indecisiveness is a bitch. It always comes from fear. Fear of what will happen if we choose A. Fear of what will happen if we choose B instead. Sometimes the consequences are minuscule, sometimes they are catastrophic. (Again, Hamlet, and a number of dead people).Read More

The Power of No

Usually when I read anything about the power of the word “no” it has to do with using it. Today I want to talk about receiving it.

A young friend of mine shared an experience she had last week and was still upset about. At her father’s urging she had tried out for spring track, a sport she had participated in last year and enjoyed.

She didn’t make the team. She explained to me that she was angry with her father because it was his fault. He had “pushed” her to try out and she had failed. Worse, she had failed in front of her friends.Read More