Quote of the Week

This month’s quotes are all from one source – Keanu Reeves. I love Reeves the man and Reeves the actor. He is one of the more grounded of the Hollywood crowd and his generosity is legend.

“You have to change your life if you’re not happy, and wake up if things aren’t going the way you want.” Keanu Reeves

I’m humbled to admit that this is a lesson I’ve had to learn a few times over. And over and over and over. We make decisions. We live with those decisions. Sometimes they work out and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes it takes a while to see the results. Sometimes it takes a leap of faith to change our life if we aren’t happy. I’ll give you an example.

I woke up on my fortieth birthday and knew that if I didn’t make a big change in my life that I would be miserable until the end of my days. I’d been married for thirteen years and it was not working out. I had security – a house, food on the table, a car to get to work – but I was miserable. My husband and I were not suited and I could no longer pretend otherwise. For starters, he loved to party and was always the last to leave after every drop of liquor was gone. I am not a party person. I prefer quieter pursuits.

He wanted nothing to do with my friends and eventually cut me off from them, a form of emotional abuse I didn’t recognize until years later. Because I’d had little security in my life, I stuck it out for too long, but that morning of my fortieth I realized I had to make a change or be miserable forever.

I’m happy to report that deciding to walk away was the best decision I could have made. I’m only sorry I didn’t make the change sooner and wasted years trying to get up the nerve to call it quits. Don’t make the same mistake I did. Change your life if you are not happy.